But….but….but….what about the way it’s “supposed to be” ???? …learning to accept and let go

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A few years ago,  I realized that if I wrote, produced, directed  and “starred” in a movie  about some of the ways I was living my life, it might be titled…..

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“The Way It Is Supposed To Be”

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Direct link to a youtube of “The Way It’s Supposed to Be”

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Sometimes I seemed to have very firm ideas, preferences, hopes and expectations for how I wanted things to be…how I thought that things were “supposed to be….”

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…I was wanting things to be a certain way…
in my own life,
in the lives of my loved ones,
in the lives of my “not-so-loved” ones
and  in the lives of the rest of the people in the world…

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And at times my  “firm” ideas were even developing into rigid expectations…

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It seemed that I was writing or creating a “script”
that was leading to lots of impatience, disappointment and frustration…

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“frustrations”
when things weren’t going the way I thought things were “supposed to go”

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After several years of frustration,  I realized that my PERSPECTIVES about “the way it’s supposed to be”  could be turned around…a different movie COULD be created, once I was able to develop a broader awareness of and understanding about the deception and rigidity in each of my own original points of view….

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I realized that we DO have the potential to turn around each of our own “life movies…..”

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We may not be able to turn around the “life movies” of others around us…but we do have the positive potential to re-script, re-write and freshly act in our own more flexible “life movies.”

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These new movies will probably still involve
each one of us writing, producing and directing our parts in those movies…

But…the “movies” can now include
our own transformed “preferences, hopes and expectations….”

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creating our new movies….


movies in which we’re living
much more accepting, happier and more satisfying everyday lives…

for both ourselves and others….

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So….here is that 3 minute movie/slideshow…. “The Way It Is Supposed to Be”

“The Way It Is Supposed to Be”a “movie”  that describes my own journey…

a journey we’re all taking…

a journey that started out with me living with so many fixed wishes and expectations….

moving along to an increasing awareness of the unhappiness I was creating by holding so firmly to those fixed wishes and expectations…

watching myself go through a transition from the unhappiness coming from living with those firm expectations…..

through a sense of bewilderment of not understanding why I was so unhappy….

and eventually transitioning to a deepening and expanding sense of “understanding” and “acceptance”

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So…now showing….
from me….by me….Kathy…
(a movie so similar to the one we’re all living)
created by the imaginary film company
Illusional Film Productions”
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“The Way It Is Supposed to Be”

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Direct link to a youtube of “The Way It’s Supposed to Be”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QGGElMejX9o

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May we all learn to let go of our “supposed to be’s”
and be able to enter the flow of ……..
flexibility, patience, kindness, acceptance,
tolerance, understanding

and wisdom

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Note: I see that I posted this “The Way It’s Supposed to Be” slideshow in 2011, 6 years ago!  And I can’t even find the pages I originally created…and hence the copy/pastes  I just did from the youtube slide show…. those original pages are even older than 2011!  Oh my goodness….I’m still learning the lessons in that slideshow!  Wow!!!…it sure seems to take a long time to learn some newer perspectives, lessons and points of view! Wow!!!… I’m still struggling to take in and learn these ideas!  I guess it’s a journey!… Here I am…. shifting back into living in a flow of developing more flexibility, patience, kindness, acceptance, tolerance,  understanding and wisdom!

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2 Responses to But….but….but….what about the way it’s “supposed to be” ???? …learning to accept and let go

  1. Great post and very helpful reminder! I love how you continue to teach me new lessons, even as time passes by. Hope all is well! 🙂

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  2. That’s right!….we’re all “still learning after all these years!”…how fortunate we are! I’m so happy you’re continuing with your own learning, too! BTW, I’m just fine! 🙂 So happy to hear from you!

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