“We are sending you light, to heal you, to hold you…” …. a gentle song of comfort, love and compassion

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“We are sending you light, to heal you, to hold you,
We are sending you light, to hold you in love”

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A very beautiful and comforting song, written by Melanie DeMore.

Click on the links to hear clips from the lovely, gentle, comforting and soothing song,  “We are Sending You Light, To Heal You, To Hold You” , sung by Betsy Rose, written by  Melanie DeMore.  Longer clip: Sending You Light from the Betsy Rose album, Welcome to the Circle, Sending You Light. Download for mp3 file of song .

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Sending You Light
Melanie DeMore

I am sending you light
to heal you to hold you.
I am sending you light
to hold you in love.

No matter where you go
No matter what you do
You’ll never walk along
My love will be with you

so….
I am sending you light
to heal you to hold you.
I am sending you light
to hold you in love.

No matter what you feel
or what you choose to show
I’m always there for you
And want you always to know…

That I am sending you light
to heal you to hold you.
I am sending you light
to hold you in love.

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 Part of Nurturing Thursday, hosted at Becca Given’s blog, On Dragonfly Wings with Buttercup Tea  ….and  part of  Pocket Perspectives’ occasional “Friday Wishes

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Happy Thanksgiving to all…. “if you walk softly, perhaps you will hear….”

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Happy Thanksgiving to all….

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Speaking out for! …Standing taller for! …. dignity, civility, respect, compassion, inclusiveness!

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Speaking out for….!
Standing up taller for…!

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Speaking out more loudly and more firmly for….
Standing up taller for….
……what has heart and meaning……

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Part of Nurturing Thursday, hosted at Becca Givens’s blog, On Dragonfly Wings with Buttercup Tea.
Sometimes, “nurturing”…as might be done by a Mother Bear…. is expressed and supported by assertiveness, setting limits, speaking boldly and ethically….standing up for our human family….standing up for civility, kindness, compassion, inclusiveness, ethics, human and animal rights, the environment…and so much more! 

Please… nurture…stand up…stand taller… Speak up…  Speak more loudly, more firmly, more stridently, more compassionately…!  Please… stand up…speak out…!

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Inspired to be… extending our limits….and that we did!

 

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“one extends one’s limits only be exceeding them”

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I got this fortune in a fortune cookie … “one extends one’s limits only be exceeding them” … this summer in the mountains of New Hampshire.    We were in New Hampshire for 3 months, where we were setting up our new mountain “home-away-from-home” …. LOTS of fixing, replacing, repairing, re-new-ing!  It was exciting, hard work, but definitely overwhelming at times.

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We were also taking little hikes in the surrounding mountains, as I tried to regain strength I had previously had.  In the past 6 months,  I had lost so much strength and flexibility and wondered whether I’d ever “get it back.”

What to do?  

Well….

~I simply continued to “do” the same thing I had been doing for many months…. “plugging into” deliberately using and living some really helpful, positive strategies and suggestions recommended by  “resilience” and “well being” researchers…

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I simply “plugged in”
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to living those “resilience” and “well being” suggestions and ideas

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“extending”……our perceived “limits”….
“exceeding”……our perceived “limits”….

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each and every day….
we were deliberately and consciously choosing…
taking many “little” hikes and “little” adventures….
climbing…
descending!
scrambling over unbelievable numbers of rocks and roots ….
puffing…panting….
balancing….
exploring…
constantly amazed by the beauty around us!
continually inspired by the wonders of nature!
…enjoying and appreciating….
…….and…….
“extending” ourselves!

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On all of the hikes,
I was repeatedly using the “resilience” and “well being” qualities
that I’ve been learning about and deliberately using
for the past 10 months….


So many helpful “resilience” and “well being” qualities,
that I’ve explained in three recent Pocket Perspectives Posts:
“Living with curiosity, willingness, openness and enthusiasms…as I learn to “choose…plug in….and connect” to positive energies!”
“Choose….plug in…connect….to the energy of so many positive qualities”

“Plug into…any positive qualities….”

 


again and again and again…
simply “plugging into” consciously choosing, doing and using
these amazing positive qualities, strategies and suggestions!

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again…..and…..again…..and…..again

“extending”
but also
noticing….enjoying….marveling…appreciating

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continually
“extending our limits” ….and that we did!

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“…….and that we did…….”

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“Happy looks good on you” …. what can we “wear” …. what matters most?

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 I saw this sign last month, on the wall of a shop in Savannah, Georgia.

At first,  I was intrigued by that idea… “happy looks good on you!”  … I even took photos of it….but mostly thought of it as an endearing “slogan.”

As I thought more about that idea, however,  I thought about how I actually DO care about “how I look.”  I pondered about how often I DO care about “what” looks good on me.

Like many women, I  tend to sometimes think about what clothes I’m going to wear, or what clothes I am wearing.  I do sometimes tend to think about what make up I have on, how my hair looks…etc…etc…etc…etc… I  like to  try to “look good”….to “fit in”…to feel “presentable”…

So… a question I’ve been thinking about since I saw that sign is….  might I have been mistaken in my choices?  …. “what” might matter most in “how” a person “looks?”  

What might  we  specifically think “looks good” on us? What might we consider most important about “how” we look?  “How” might we prefer to present ourselves?  “How” might we wish to be perceived?

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That endearing little sign certainly set off….
lots and lots of reflecting…
lots and lots of questioning….
lots and lots of thinking about how I’m perceiving…what I might be wishing for…
reflecting upon choices I might be making…
considering how I might look more deeply into “what matters….”

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“What”….actually “matters”….???
“What” … “looks good” on us….???

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I think that almost everybody, to varying degrees,  wants to “look good.”
And most people might spend a lot of time,  effort and money to try to “look good…”

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So…what might be…
a  few areas that many women, myself included…might be caring about…???

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I don’t usually have too much concern about “how I look…”
….but still….
might I be at all mistaken about any of these….????

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Certain clothes..???…. “special” clothes….????…
Certain….hair cuts…hair styles…hair colors….make up….???
Certain….jewelry….accessories…handbags…shoes….?
“What matters most…..?”

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Maybe… each of “those” contributing to a sense of  feeling more “confident……”
but….
of course!….
there’s so much more….so much “deeper….”
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Stepping back and reflecting…
what matters most….???
Any…???….some….???…. of those external factors…???
Maybe….perceived as  contributing to  feeling more confident…
….but ….
perhaps…..
there’s so much more…
so much “deeper….”

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Reflecting…considering…challenging….expanding my awareness…
going deeper…going wider…going further…

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What other “factors” might we think  “matter most” to each one of us….
in how we each might wish to be  “perceived”…. ???

Any…???….some….???…. of these  other external factors…???
Maybe….perceived as  contributing to  feeling more confident…
….but ….perhaps….
there’s so much more…
so much “deeper….”

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What might “matter” most?
What might matter most in how each one of us “looks” each day?
What might matter most in how we “look” each day?
What might matter most in choices we’re making….?
???….What might matter most….????

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Maybe…
just maybe…
the  most important aspect about how we each “look” each day
…might be…
the personal demeanor we’re presenting to each other…

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And maybe….just maybe…
the most important aspect might NOT be….
clothes, hair, makeup, fashion, accessories…

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Maybe….just maybe…
the most important aspect of how we “look” might be….
happy looks good on you!”

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“looking good…..”
Ohhhhhhh….of course:

“showing” our good heartedness,
“wearing” our good heartedness
as we’re sharing those….
contributing to the well being of people around us

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So….what might be some of those deeper aspects of
“looking good….” … looking happy…”

Perhaps, a few important qualities that contribute to “looking happy,”
qualities we can “wear” that are contributing to…
how we look,
to our own sense of well being,
to how we’re perceived,
to how we’re contributing to those we’re around,
to how we’re contributing to those we are with…

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How does “happy” look….????
What can we choose to “wear”….?

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…….generosity…contentment…kindness…acceptance…….
look good on you
look good on us
these matter!
showing our good hearted-ness

as we’re contributing to the well being of ourselves and each other

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“happy looks good on you!”
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Living with curiosity, willingness, openness and enthusiasm…as I learn to “choose…plug in…and…connect” to positive energies!

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For the many past months, after being confusingly impacted by several losses and physical challenges, I’ve been very motivated to more richly and fully “live” the positive qualities and ideas explained in yesterday’s Pocket Perspectives post,  “Choose…plug in……connect to….the energy of so many positive qualities”

I really have been trying to “choose, plug in and connect to” the positive energies of those many positive qualities and skills…. doing my best to try to live those ideas, qualities and skills with curiosity, willingness, openness…and maybe even a bit of enthusiasm!

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And…recently…I’ve been able to do that more often!

Check this out…
that’s me in those photos, taken last week!!!!
Wow!!!

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Wow!!!  Last week, I learned how to ride a motorcycle/dirt bike!!!! Wow!!!
I never, ever, ever, ever thought I’d do such a thing!!!
(it may be one of the bravest things I’ve EVER done!)
Choosing!  Plugging in!!!  Connecting!!!!

 

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Committing myself to….
cheerfully, curiously, openly, willingly and enthusiastically
living the ideas on those lists!!!
Making….“cheerful choices”

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 I came up with a “checklist” this morning, to fill in each day…or every few days…
in support of….motivating, nurturing and encouraging myself to try to live these ideas!

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In support of living in this more positive, proactive manner, I created this Daily Checklist (specific to my own daily life)  using these wonderful ideas… in support of making cheerful choices to be creating positive habits through nurturing and developing  more conscious ongoing awareness of, commitment to and activation of some of these positive qualities and ways of living each day…. hopefully taking these positive ideas from an “interesting,  theoretical, academic perspective”  to a “living these ideas each day”  perspectiveleading to a richer, more meaningful, engaged sense of well being in our everyday lives!

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Making an abundance of….. “cheerful choices”

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Opening to….possibilities

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Part of Nurturing Thursday, hosted at Becca Given’s Blog, On Dragonfly Wings with Buttercup Tea.  Please visit Becca’s blog for her Nurturing Thursday post and links to posts by other Nurturing Thursday bloggers.

 

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Choose…plug in…connect to…. the “energy” of so many positive qualities

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Choosing….plugging into…connecting to…
the positive energies of a vast assortment of
“Positive Qualities”

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There are SO many wonderful positive qualities
that we can aspire to using and living in our everyday lives…

There is so much positive energy accessible in each of those wonderful qualities!

Simply….
choosing…plugging into…connecting with…
so many powerful, positive energies

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so many potential, energetic,  positive qualities!

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Choosing….plugging into….connecting with…
the energy of the many positive qualities identified in the
UPENN VIA Online Strengths Survey

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Some of those wonderful, positive, energetic VIA qualities
explained in earlier posts “Life Awake Guide, Life- Quake Preparedness”
and
“Charts”…for using VIA Core Strengths, Positivity Qualites, Perfections….

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So many wonderful ideas, positive qualities and skills
identified by a variety of researchers and from a variety of sources…

Becoming more aware of……positive energies
choosing
positive energies….
plugging into those positive energies….
connecting to the positive energies…
living our lives more meaningfully, intentionally, richly and fully!

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Choosing….plugging into….connecting with…
the positive energies of
Seligman’s PERMA Flourish Qualities
Barbara Fredrickson’s Positivity Qualities and Positive Emotions

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Choosing….plugging into….connecting with…
the abundant positive energies of….
The Mayo Clinic Resilience Qualities
and my pages that I created for actually using those Mayo Clinic Resilience Qualities
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The “Six Perfections”
“The Immeasurables”

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Choosing….plugging into….connecting with…
the abundant positive energies of….
David Richo’s “The 5 A’s of Relationships”…. (wonderful qualities!!!)

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Effective organizing, initiating, persisting, completing of activities….
“How wonderful it might be”

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And…my variation on….Optimistic Explanatory Styles.….

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Choosing….plugging into….connecting with…
the positive energies of….
POSITIVE  ABCDE  (I flipped the negative ABCDE to Positive)
Carol Ryff’s Well Being Scale  (my favorite!!!)
Richard Davidson’s Four Constituents of Well Being

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The accessible and powerful energies of so many positive qualities!

Choosing….plugging into…connecting to…
the positive energies of such a vast assortment of
“positive qualities”

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A daily reminder “checklist”  I just came up with  (specific to my own daily life)  using these wonderful ideas… in support of creating positive habits through nurturing and developing  more conscious ongoing awareness, commitment to and activation of these qualities and ways of living each day…. hopefully taking these positive ideas from an “interesting,  theoretical, academic perspective”  to a “living these ideas each day”  perspective….leading to a richer, more meaningful, engaged sense of well being in our everyday lives!

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Choosing!  Plugging in!!!  Connecting!!!!
Wow!!!!Wow!!!  Last week, I learned how to ride a motorcycle/dirt bike!!!! Wow!!
That’s me riding that dirt bike!…


I never, ever, ever, ever thought I’d do such a thing!!!


Committing myself to….
cheerfully, curiously and enthusiastically living the ideas on those lists!!!

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