I’ve found the image of “clouds” to be helpful in understanding
…that feelings come and go…
youtube “video/booklet” of “Feelings, Like Clouds….”
Click on images to enlarge, for easier reading
To be truthful about one of my actual perspectives: Even though this idea of acceptance of the feelings, whether they are positive or challenging, is very helpful and does have “truth” in it and is, or has potential to be, an effective process….
some of the time, if it’s an unpleasant feeling,
I just want to get rid of it as quickly as possible!
I know that there is a process of feelings “arising….lasting awhile…..and then moving on”….
“arise….go away!…scat!….get away from me!….”
So….that’s where I am….I do try to accept….and I do try to breathe with it…but really, underneath my accepting philosophy, I want unpleasant feelings to just go away as quickly as possible! Unfortunately, that strategy doesn’t work very well, so I practice this different way.
That “booklet” was made in 2008…..now it’s 2011….I’m making progress, but I still often have that underlying wish …truthfully, I still wish I could just get rid of unhappy feelings…quickly!
this seems to be one way that it works…..
to accept and learn to live with this awareness…
Sometimes I find it helpful to also use more cognitive or “thinking/working it through” type of strategies. Here are a few I’ve come up with and find helpful” (by the way, I am not a psychologist…these are just ideas and strategies that I’ve come up with for using with myself, after lots of reading, workshops, thinking, observing etc )
Post: Adjusting: a sequence of 5 helpful steps that I use in the midst of a challenging feeling (click on small images to enlarge for easier reading)
Post: AIMS: (accept, imagine, measure, skills) A different 4 step process that I came up with a few years ago…and find helpful
Post: Loving kindness….so helpful
ps…..for me, practicing sitting meditation on a regular basis (well, as often as I can get myself to do that) has helped sooo much with “calming my mind”…and so has reading lots of books about understanding the mind and the flow of life. And of course, creating and using visual images helps me so much too….
And so…. these various pages have helped me…maybe there are ideas or pages in this post that might be helpful for others….
I wish us all well……
in whatever it might be for each one of us,
that will lead to fewer challenging reactions
and the nurturing and development of increasing happiness…
Just an added note…I’ll make a post/page in the next few days about the following, because there are steps within it…..this is really nice…I got a blogger “award” yesterday, from another blogger who lives in Australia…from happydancecat at Year of Kindness ( a remarkable blog!.. she is making/doing a significant act of kindness each day for one year) …the award? an “Irresistibly Sweet Blog” award…. : )