“Friday Wishes…” May you feel happy and contented….

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“Comings…and…goings”…. appreciating warmth, love, friendships…..

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Ahhhhhhhh….the many  “comings and goings” in our lives…the continuing and continual “comings and goings” of situations, circumstances, people, friendships, connections.

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Much of the time, at least for me,  life seems quite steady, consistent and stable… living and appreciating the wonderful-ness of steady relationships with people…the  love, warmth, friendships and connections.  These are all so precious.

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That apparent steadiness seems so consistent, so continuing, so reliable….so predictable, so trustable.

And yet… the “reality” is… (and, at times, this is such a bewildering surprise to me)… everything is always changing…everything….100 % …constantly, continually changing…. whether I consciously realize that or not…things change… continual comings and goings….there are continuing  “hello’s” … warmth, love, friendship…”thank you’s” …. and “good bye’s”

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And so…to appreciate the beauty of so much warmth, love and friendship in our lives… to be thankful and filled with gratitude…to live with and to say “thank you” each and every day…thankful for the abundance and beauty of this amazing warmth, love and friendship…

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To  learn to understand and accept…whether I “like” it or not, things do change…and lead, at some point,  to  “good bye’s”… to not be so “caught off guard” and so “bewildered” and “surprised” by that… we don’t know when, we don’t know how…but to learn to accept that things “change…”…and to appreciate what is “here” while it is here.

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To realize and accept… everything is constantly changing…

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….. remembering the “dynamic” nature of everything in our lives…….

….. remembering to live with a sense of deep appreciation and thankfulness, while that amazing preciousness is “here….” in our lives right now…….

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And when things do change, to continue to carry these precious qualities and that deeply felt appreciation in each of our hearts….

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Part of Nurturing Thursdays, hosted at Becca’s Given’s blog, On Dragonfly Wings With Buttercup Tea.  Please link to Becca’s blog to ready her Nurturing Thursday post and to link to the posts of other Nurturing Thursday bloggers.

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But….but….but….what about the way it’s “supposed to be” ???? …learning to accept and let go

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A few years ago,  I realized that if I wrote, produced, directed  and “starred” in a movie  about some of the ways I was living my life, it might be titled…..

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“The Way It Is Supposed To Be”

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Direct link to a youtube of “The Way It’s Supposed to Be”

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Sometimes I seemed to have very firm ideas, preferences, hopes and expectations for how I wanted things to be…how I thought that things were “supposed to be….”

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…I was wanting things to be a certain way…
in my own life,
in the lives of my loved ones,
in the lives of my “not-so-loved” ones
and  in the lives of the rest of the people in the world…

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And at times my  “firm” ideas were even developing into rigid expectations…

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It seemed that I was writing or creating a “script”
that was leading to lots of impatience, disappointment and frustration…

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when things weren’t going the way I thought things were “supposed to go”

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After several years of frustration,  I realized that my PERSPECTIVES about “the way it’s supposed to be”  could be turned around…a different movie COULD be created, once I was able to develop a broader awareness of and understanding about the deception and rigidity in each of my own original points of view….

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I realized that we DO have the potential to turn around each of our own “life movies…..”

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We may not be able to turn around the “life movies” of others around us…but we do have the positive potential to re-script, re-write and freshly act in our own more flexible “life movies.”

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These new movies will probably still involve
each one of us writing, producing and directing our parts in those movies…

But…the “movies” can now include
our own transformed “preferences, hopes and expectations….”

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creating our new movies….


movies in which we’re living
much more accepting, happier and more satisfying everyday lives…

for both ourselves and others….

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So….here is that 3 minute movie/slideshow…. “The Way It Is Supposed to Be”

“The Way It Is Supposed to Be”a “movie”  that describes my own journey…

a journey we’re all taking…

a journey that started out with me living with so many fixed wishes and expectations….

moving along to an increasing awareness of the unhappiness I was creating by holding so firmly to those fixed wishes and expectations…

watching myself go through a transition from the unhappiness coming from living with those firm expectations…..

through a sense of bewilderment of not understanding why I was so unhappy….

and eventually transitioning to a deepening and expanding sense of “understanding” and “acceptance”

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So…now showing….
from me….by me….Kathy…
(a movie so similar to the one we’re all living)
created by the imaginary film company
Illusional Film Productions”
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“The Way It Is Supposed to Be”

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Direct link to a youtube of “The Way It’s Supposed to Be”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QGGElMejX9o

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May we all learn to let go of our “supposed to be’s”
and be able to enter the flow of ……..
flexibility, patience, kindness, acceptance,
tolerance, understanding

and wisdom

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Note: I see that I posted this “The Way It’s Supposed to Be” slideshow in 2011, 6 years ago!  And I can’t even find the pages I originally created…and hence the copy/pastes  I just did from the youtube slide show…. those original pages are even older than 2011!  Oh my goodness….I’m still learning the lessons in that slideshow!  Wow!!!…it sure seems to take a long time to learn some newer perspectives, lessons and points of view! Wow!!!… I’m still struggling to take in and learn these ideas!  I guess it’s a journey!… Here I am…. shifting back into living in a flow of developing more flexibility, patience, kindness, acceptance, tolerance,  understanding and wisdom!

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“Friday Wishes” … light and inspirations for motivation, strength and steadiness… as we’re “retrofitting” our personal foundations

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I’ve REALLY  been needing to “retrofit” my own “personal life-foundation” throughout the past few months!

I’ve been feeling a bit like I’ve been living in the midst of a “life quake”…and my “personal foundation” has felt like it’s in danger of collapsing and definitely hasn’t seemed steady or resilient  enough!

I’ve been  supporting  that much needed “foundation retrofitting”  by using a number of  resilience and well being researchers’ ideas for creating a stronger “personal foundation.”

In support of doing that, I’ve continued to reflect upon, commit to and live those ideas and  qualities on the “Well Being” checklist that I compiled last year!

And amazingly enough, using that checklist on a daily basis…and living those qualities on a daily basis… is leading to an increasing the sense of steadiness, stability, strength, motivation, connection, well being and resilience!

What a surprise…actually “living” those checklist ideas, qualities and suggestions works!

 

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Living the Mayo Clinic Resilience suggestions…
easy to understand, basic and effective!
living these qualities….as much and as often as I can…

Lady Liberty standing upon her strong, steady foundation…
encouraging and inspiring us with… her beacons of light!

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Reflecting upon, considering, understanding and committing to
living the Ryff Well Being ideas..
as much as possible,
as often as I can…

Lady Liberty, strong and steady,  encouraging and offering us…beacons of light!

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Each day, I simply review the Mayo Clinic and Ryff ideas on the Well Being Checklist.
I look at and review the other helpful, positive ideas on that checklist, too!

Each day, after doing various “activities” throughout that day, I read each checklist item and check off the qualities that I lived while doing that activity…

I’m learning so much about my deeper senses of motivation, meaning and purpose!

And I’m learning to align and realign…again and again and again…with positive, proactive, healthy qualities and outlooks… each one aligned with my own deeper values… as I’m building and retrofitting my own sense of  “life foundation”

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I started out using just the Mayo Clinic and Ryff ideas, but I’ve  expanded the list over the past year to include a greater variety of  positive, helpful, proactive ideas!  These ideas have been so helpful for me!

Throughout this past year, I had been familiarizing myself with the various checklist ideas and using and living them on a daily basis.

And then the election!  Thank goodness I was already familiar with and able to access and use these positive ideas!

And so now, I’m continuing each and every day to simply committing and re-committing… aligning and re-aligning…with the goodness and strong positive life-potential that is supported through actually living these ideas!

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Lady Liberty…standing upon her strong, stable, resilient foundation!
Inspiring and guiding us….with her beacons of light!

Seeing her standing steadily upon her strong foundation!
We’re continually able to see…Lady Liberty’s beacons of light!
Inspired by… her beacons of light!

Guided by… her beacons of light!
Strengthened by… her beacons of light!

Aligned with the ideas within….her beacons of light!
Living the inspirations and principles within….her beacons of light!
Committed to the goodness of… Lady Liberty’s beacons of light!
Living in alignment with…her beacons of light!

Mayo Clinic and Ryff suggestions and ideas…
standing upon a strong foundation…beaming out beacons of light!
Lady Liberty….guiding us along our way!

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“Friday Wishes….”

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“California Rising” … “We have become what we are by welcoming new people and new ideas.”

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“We believe in the potential of every child in our state. Every single one.”

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Link to the printable pdf copy of that art work and poster:  California Rising, Marin Community Foundation.

Marin Community Foundation, Dr. Thomas Peters President & CEO

 

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Photo of newspaper pages from the San Francisco Chronicle, Feb. 22, 2017,
taped up onto our kitchen wall.

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That newspaper art and poster, hanging on our wall!

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“We believe in the potential of every child in our state. Every single one.”

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“We know that immigrants make us stronger, not weaker.”

“We have become who we are by welcoming people and new ideas.
This will never change.”

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“We are Californians.”

“And never prouder to say so.”

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How about…
“Oregon Rising”…. ???
“Washington Rising”… ???
“People all over our country rising”

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Marin Community Foundation, Dr. Thomas Peters President & CEO:

“As a life-long resident, I’ve never been more proud than now to be a Californian.

Amid the loud rhetoric and heated debate of the day, one can literally feel the upwelling of support for the human values and welcoming traditions that are the virtual watermark of our state. Anyone who knows the history of California knows that it has been the great flow of immigration that continually refreshes and revitalizes our culture, creativity and productivity.

There is no better time than the present to celebrate and defend California’s dynamic force.

That’s why we created a statement from MCF, California Rising, which you’ll see below.

As a community foundation, we are committed to doing everything we can to uphold the values and traditions that make California, California.”

 

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“Friday Wishes”…to develop my abilities to “Stop, Step back, Reflect, Transform…”

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Noticing negative thoughts, feelings or reactions….
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stopping…stepping back… evaluating….reflecting…using good reasoning…transforming

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Little drops of water, little grains of sand…little deeds of kindness, little words of love…

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My mother used to recite this little poem to us, when we were little…
a special sentiment…

encouraging and nurturing kindness, generosity and love,
reminding us to nurture ourselves and each other
as we all travel through life together

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a reminder….
even during times when we’re  feeling tumbled around in turmoil,
we can take refuge in offering and receiving
little thoughts, words and deeds of kindness…
little thoughts, words and deeps of love…
little drops of water, little grains of sand
happily given….gratefully received

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happily given…gratefully received…
kindness, nurturing and love…

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