I created a “booklet,” Disruptions, a few years ago, about coping with complicated situations…“disruptions”….
Perhaps, some ideas from this booklet
might be helpful to others who are going through difficult times?
and so I share the ideas here….
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An explanation of the background of the ideas
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Some ideas, based on those books:
- “step out,” of the emotion of the situations, in whatever ways one is able
- to realize there is a “sequential structure” to the progression of dealing with problems or crises…
- that structure involves a predictable progression from “disruption” to “disorganization” to “reorganization.” (based on work by Dr. Colin Murray-Parker)
- to just take “one step at a time” when within the disorganization stage
- to know/reassure oneself that the upset and “crisis” will eventually pass…
- to develop an awareness that even if the situation doesn’t really change, one’s own reaction to the situation could change….
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Added the next day: it just occurred to me….these steps/stages are part of the cycle of “arise…abide…dissolve…”, an image in a previous post a few weeks ago….worded as
“disruption”= arise,
“disorganization”=arise/abide
“reorganization”=abide/dissolve.
A few minutes later: I just realized that this “cycle” happens on an everyday basis, with our thoughts, feelings, reactions, interactions, events, situations…..and probably much more. Those stages also happen with weather, emotions and damage to physical structures….
weather: a storm develops, arrives/happens, passes
human emotion/reactions during a storm: develop, happen, resolve
storm damage: happens, is present, is repaired or reconstructed
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The pages from the booklet, in a short, one minute slideshow,
using a variety of possible situations and potential reactions
(thankfully, I don’t have experience with most of the examples,
I just put them there as examples)
less extreme examples happen in everyday life
but sometimes, more extreme, expanded “disruptions” occur
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Pocket Perspectives 
Thank you for sharing this as we all experience cycles of disruption and can always use ideas to help.
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I find that reminding myself of the awareness of those sequential “stages,” even in everyday situations, continues to be helpful. (when I can remember to do that ) I guess that thinking about the stages helps one step outside of the midst of reactions and see that there is a bigger picture. And, as you write, everyone has experiences within that disruption cycle….wish we didn’t!
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Marie, the more I think about these “stages” the more connection I see to other ways of wording the stages and how they happen all the time…I added to the bottom of the post. Interesting that I didn’t notice that the ideas are so similar/overlap with arise, abide, dissolve.
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The power of the human spirit is to take things on one step at a time. Thoughtful words here.
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Yes, it does come down to one step at a time….and the power of the human spirit to maintain awareness of that.
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Just read the addition to your post. Gives me more food for thought, I am seeing a connection with death, how every moment something is dying in our lives but then is replaced by something new… I am thinking out loud again, but not finalizing my thoughts. 🙂
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I think that’s it… the “comings and goings” of things in our everyday lives..the arise, abide and dissolve of impermanence. This process/sequence opens life up to constant renewal. I ponder about this so often…so many different levels for approaching it too.
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thank you, this is a helpful reminder..
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You’re very welcome….I’ve found that when I’m able to keep that progression in mind that there’s more steadiness and resilience. I hope it might help others too. Thank you for your feedback.
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