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I recently read about a potentially effective way to look at “worrying”…
(from The Worry Solution, by Dr. Martin Rossman )
to simply consider whether I CAN do something about a situation or problem…
and if I CAN, to create strategies to work on solving the problem
OR…
to realize when I really CAN’T change what I consider problematic…
that, perhaps, there’s nothing I can actually DO…
and then, to try to learn “acceptance”
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So…I tried to put that idea into a simple, visual format…
to help me keep that “conscious choice” in mind…
“yes, I might be able to do something”
or
“no, there’s probably nothing I can do”
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Sometimes there might be nothing I can do to change a situation…
(I like to “fix” things…and I love everyone to feel happy, harmonious and content…
so this is a difficult realization for me)
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But…
sometimes, there are, or at least MIGHT BE,
solutions to problems…
whether in myself, with other people, in situations, fixing house problems…
to brainstorm potentially effective strategies and steps for solving…
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And so…
noticing when I’m worrying…
stopping,
considering whether I CAN do anything about this “worry” or “concern”….
if not, to learn to accept…
if “yes,”…. to strategize and take steps toward a solution…
making better conscious choices
choices that might support more happiness in both others and myself…
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easy as that….
such simple choices…
I wonder why it seems so hard to do this in everyday life????
maybe it’s a matter of habit and practice?
okay…
practice time ahead…
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“can I do anything about this?”
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😀
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Pocket Perspectives 
Good luck getting rid of the wee little house mouse . . . and with kicking your worries to the curb!
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Once I kick the worries to the curb, I won’t care about the mice!…
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I have something to share… I am more patient now. Really! 🙂 I noticed that when the computer slows down which always made me very uptight, I am relaxed. I noticed when that tonight I had a few things to do at the same time such as placing an inventory order for our online business, had to a search, had to read emails, answer an annoying customer’s inquiries, etc I was patient; did one task at a time at a comfortable pace. The Sedona method of being mindful and releasing attachment to negative emotions is working for me. 🙂
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And Marie, that’s wonderful that you’re more patient!!!…isn’t it such a surprise to notice changes in one’s reactions, without really realizing there has been a change? A wonderful surprise, indeed. Sounds like your hard “work” is paying off… and sounds like the Sedona Method is powerful and effective. I’ve read about it…think I’ll go read MORE about it now! 😀 (and just LOOK at those wonderful smiles in your comments!!!! 😀 😀 😀 …smiling back! )
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haha, noticed that I am reaally smiling tonight, didn’t realize I added so many smiles, LOL
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Marie…that’s WONDERFUL that you are smiling… I’m sooooooo happy to hear of your happiness…aren’t those little clues telling?….and it’s contagious…I caught it! thanks! 😀
Worthy of this… THE top page for post views on Pocket Perspectives…more than 1000 views! lots of happy people search for it, I guess! https://pocketperspectives.wordpress.com/2011/12/19/stop-everybody-im-happy-now-said-by-a-4-year-old/ And this… https://pocketperspectives.wordpress.com/piles-of-smiles/smile-til-your-cheeks-hurt/ you’ve joined a very special club with those 2 little girls
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Haha, it was funny because as I writing I didn’t notice I was adding a smiley after each paragraph… Let me check your over 1,000 views page, wow ——————–> 🙂
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